The loss of a loved one is never easy. There are myriad decisions to be made and if you are choosing to have a funeral or memorial for your family member, one important decision is the right person to deliver the eulogy. For most people, writing and delivering a eulogy is a deeply emotional experience. If you are thinking about a specific person for a funeral or memorial, it’s important to let that person know that you are considering them in case they are uncomfortable with this responsibility.
Family members, clergy, funeral conductors and friends are usually tasked with delivering eulogies at memorials. At religious funerals, it is usually the clergy that delivers the eulogy, although others may be able to eulogize, or speak lovingly about your loved one. The number of speakers is up to the person responsible for the memorial. If it is a religious ceremony, the main eulogy is delivered by the clergy member that officiates the service. While a eulogy can be more formal, other speakers can also share anecdotes, say prayers, recite poems and tell stories about your loved one.
Eulogy topics can be as varied as the loved ones themselves. The focus can be on the deceased individual’s religious faith, professional life, hobbies and artistic interests, or their personal life. Many people share their memories of the deceased and tell stories about their interactions and relationship with that person over the years. You might want the speaker to choose the content of the eulogy, or you may want to suggest a topic. It’s important to prepare the person who has been chosen to deliver the eulogy ahead of time to let them know what you would like to hear at the memorial. Sometimes humor can go a long way in alleviating the sadness and ‘heaviness’ that is usually present during a funeral or memorial service. If this is uncomfortable for you, let the person you have chosen to deliver the eulogy know that and suggest some topics that you feel are more appropriate.
Polchinski Memorials understands the emotional and financial parameters of planning a funeral or memorial. Our compassion and sensitivity are